Thursday, December 18, 2014


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Currently I am keeping the following in my thoughts &  prayers:

-----Safety for Holiday travelers!
-----A friend who had his birthday recently. That the year ahead brings much companionship, happiness and peace.
-----I am not sure my Husband is going to do any more smoking cessation efforts!!!
-----Ebola victims and their loved ones.That the American soldiers who have been sent over to help do not catch this illness (and that their is more media coverage of what is going on with them). That people and governments work together to eradicate this...less complaining and more eradicating. For the health care workers.
-----A friend of mine and his wife...they are in Africa to help children. They are volunteering in one of the countries considered at risk for eventually having Ebola.
-----A friend of ours, a 44-year-old mother of 10, passed away from cancer recently. I am now reading about a Mother of six who defied odds on first prognosis (as my Mother managed to do for almost five years after being admitted with death likely imminent)...this mother's name is Kathy Taylor. I am hoping that targeted therapies continue to develop and continue to help keep the Taylor family together. There is a GoFundMe page listed in the article I linked.
-----All who battle mental illness.
-----A couple I know who would like to afford getting married this year.


This post is in no particular order. Prayer/thought requests just go to the top as I hear more about what is going on. If you can think of a way to help these people, PLEASE do so. This post will be second-from-the-top during the midst of an emergency (such as an Amber Alert).

Note: I would not advise linking to this will wind up with a broken link each time I have to change the post-dating to keep this a Vigil at the Top.

At JPUSA. Summer 2011.


Cancer Club
by Lucinda Sue Crosby

This was a very emotional read full of nuggets of wisdom and fear for me. My Mother died after an almost 5-year battle with Stage 4 breast cancer last year. In Marley, I saw my Mother's journey and the many attempts to cope and face all of life's many realities in one quick swoop. I saw the hurry up and wait that is such a BIG part of cancer...indeed, this novel truly had a lot of emotional waiting though it seemed emotions were flying and life was moving along with its many demands. As you may have noticed, I am a bit of a prude, so it took me a bit to get past a few of the sexy parts in the book..but this character was so real to me....kind of what like Auntie Mame would be like with breast cancer. :-) In a way, I might have liked the story more if Marly had not been a jetsetter- the betrayals, insensitivity, apathy and people using being associated with the illness as some sort of trophy are more typical of what the average cancer patient faces. I hope that I handle the battle with as much LIFE should I find myself on the breast cancer journey. 

Wednesday, December 17, 2014


Angelina "Angel" McFarland lives in London in a fairly perfect life (though her parents are not as involved in her life as they could be). Angel's sisters,Paulina and Brittney Renae, are everything to her. Then one day she has an accident and finds herself falling into Neverland...far from the adorable sisters she loves and the comfortable life she is accustomed to. Angel also has amnesia that seems to be getting worse. She must get home before she forgets it all and wants to stay in Neverland forever.

Angel quickly realizes that James "just Jamie" Hook may not have much of the ugliness and meanness that she read of in fairytales (and heard from the Lost Boys). The James Hook character was entirely different than other tellings of Peter Pan. It was very good to hear the tale from his viewpoint,too. The two narrations blended perfectly with very little awkwardness.

Peter is not as would be expected for someone reveling in not growing up but there is good reason for this. Despite Pan's anger and resentment being justified, it was hard for me to entirely like him as a character...but I guess someone with that much betrayal at young age would make similar choices. Really, when I think about it, I see Peter doing nothing but betraying and being selfish (the very things that make him so sad about the real world). It is depressing that this character's psychological problems may get worse in the next novel..."Pan's Revenge."

I would have liked to see a little more development of both the (smelly) pirates and the (needed to be cuter and a bit fiercer)Lost Boys...but I am a fan of seeing authors somehow fully develop ALL characters.
(Maybe we can see at least a little bit of how James Hook developed a relationship with Smee in the next novel?)

It is a Neverland much like the traditional telling and yet SO different. I had a lot of fun recognizing references. Now I want to watch the Disney version and read J.M. Barrie's "Peter Pan and Wendy" again! What a beautiful world that Anna Katmore creates for the characters....including a beautiful volcano and the possibility that James Hook will have an adventure with it in a later volume.

The cliffhanger ending is perfect....I could not figure out where it was going from there though I did have one intriguing guess based on previous Peter Pan storylines and what I feel is a loose end in this book. If handled well and given the right actors, this would make a perfect "saga" movie. I am excited to see the next journey.

A fan-made book trailer.I love the song.

Rating by me: 4.5 out of 5 Stars
This was bit of a complex rating for me to come to.
---I am used to YA Fantasy not sticking to the time period for language and habits (Hook had some modern day swearing, for instance). This choice of writing style is often amusing. :-)
---I am not used to the fact that a lot of Young Adult books have intimacy now...but have to acknowledge that would often be realistic for someone a few months short of eighteen. There was mainly just a lot of kissing and no truly suggestive language. A lot of kissing, no real mention of body parts, no crude euphemisms for body parts and just mention in his thoughts by James Hook of having "made love" at one point. So, I think this is a read for young adults and above (not teens).
Anyway, those kind of things made me pause in my reading. In the end though, I feel that this is a sweet story with a lot of potential to be a "saga" type movie.

Monday, December 15, 2014

Maia and the Secrets of Zagran

Title: Maia and the Secrets of Zagran
Author: S.G. Basu
Genre: YA Science Fiction / Fantasy

Thirteen year old Maia thinks she has seen it all.

She has survived an assassination attempt, she has been threatened by the chancellor, and she has faced off with saboteurs trying to bring down a nation. She lets nothing get to her anymore-not the ominous nightmares she has been having lately, not the fear of being targeted for another soul extraction, not even the memories of her dead mother's terrifying communique.

More than ever, Maia wants the Initiative to resume. She longs to visit Zagran-the undersea capital of the Jjord. She wants to ride the underwater transport lines, learn about the Jjordic energy farms and most of all-she wants to goof off with her friends.

But, around the charming city of Zagran, evil is gathering. Maia and her friends do not know it yet, the countdown to their planned extinction has already begun.

What happened next was a blur. All Maia could remember was charging at the center of the formation with Bellator. Piercing each curve in space, twirling and twisting her sword, she slashed through the wall, creating a path for her to pass through. The boulders came apart in fragments, the pieces flying past her and some scraping her painfully in the face, arms, and legs. The parts of the formation that went past untouched by Bellator, hit the wall behind Maia, creating a scorched impression on it. Remii stared at her with glazed eyes, his face twitching with fury as he stood with fists clenched. As some of the fragments flew back violently in his direction, he raised his hand again, possibly to build a shield, but he was not fast enough. He tumbled and fell as they hit him, groaning and clawing at his face where it was gashed and scalded by shrapnel from the wave.
There was a hopeful pause before Miir attacked. His black sword was as vicious as Maia had always found it to be. Once again she was engulfed by the fire of his fearsome swordplay that grew stronger around her with every passing moment. All Maia could think was to fight until her last breath. She could not give in. She had to fight for Bikele, Gibbon, and everything else that was good in this world. Wishing for her friends to arrive soon, Maia lunged at Miir, trying to push him back a little, and hoping to catch him off balance. She had forgotten all about his swordsmanship, about his skills that were far superior than Maia would have liked to admit. He stepped aside with the quickness of a lightning bolt, and as Maia struggled to regain her balance, the hilt of his sword came crashing down at the back of her neck.
Bellator went flying from her hand again as Maia fell in a crumpled heap against a leg of the table. As she slowly brought herself up to a sitting position, she became aware of the sharp tip of Miir’s sword resting between her eyes, steady and poised to strike.
“Why are you doing this?” Maia said, struggling to fill her lungs with air.
“Because you are being a hindrance to our operations and . . . you threatened my brother.” Miir’s voice was cold and unrelenting.
How Maia had hoped to run into Miir over the last few weeks, how badly she had wished for a chance to apologize. Never once had she dreamed of meeting him like this. She had not meant it then, but what she had said to him the last time they had met had indeed come true—they were surely not friends anymore.
“Don’t do this. Please,” Maia pleaded, the painful lump in her throat choking her voice. "This...this is wrong."

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As of this posting, there is a Kindle Edition available that is still a pre-order and the current price is $2.99.

S. G. Basu is a telecommunications engineer by profession, but she likes to call herself a dreamer. Imagination, fueled by a voracious appetite for books, has been her steady friend since childhood. She discovered her passion for writing quite by chance and there has been no stopping her since then.

Find out more about the futuristic worlds she creates, the characters that come to life with their emotions and ambitions, successes and failures, joys and heartbreaks, at

Giveaways for autographed copies will be up on Goodreads and BookLikes soon. :-)

-----Maia and the Xifarian Conspiracy (The Lightbound Saga, #1)
-----Maia and the Secrets of Zagran (The Lightbound Saga, #2)

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Undead Obsessed

Non Fiction / Pop Culture
Date Published: October 31, 2014

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Jessica Robinson's obsession with zombie films started when she was in junior high. Horror films are a great lens to examine concerns society has about modern science. Let’s face it, when it comes to horror movies, science has a bad reputation. Blind ambition, experimental serums, and genetic experiments are often blamed for the giant monster terrorizing the city or the reason aliens are taking human prisoners or the cause of the dead rising from the grave to consume living flesh.
Using film, literature, and interviews with experts, Robinson examines how zombies portray real-world fears such as epidemics, mind control, what may or may not exist in space, the repercussions of playing God, and the science behind the fears. Robinson's goal is to explore how zombies become a metaphor for our fears of science and what could happen if science gets out of hand.

About the Author

Jessica Robinson is an editor by day and a zombie-killer by night (at least in her books). Since the first time she watched Night of the Living Dead, she has been obsessed with zombies and often thinks of ways to survive the uprising. In addition to her nonfiction book, under the pen name Pembroke Sinclair, she has written YA novels about zombies and the tough teens who survive the apocalyptic world. She has also written nonfiction stories for Serial Killer Magazine and published a book about slasher films called Life Lessons from Slasher Films. You can learn more about Jessica by visiting her at

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Here at our house I am really looking forward to reading this one. Husband worked for Tobey Sells on the zombie movie "Collapse" and we have quit a few zombie wounds sculpts floating around the house at any given time.

Saturday, December 13, 2014

Ratgirl: Song of the Viper

Young Adult
Date Published: December 31, 2013
YA Dystopian-Award Nominee

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The only things sixteen-year-old JAX STONE has of her former life is an antique watch and an old storybook her grandmother left her, a five-year-old brother, ANDY, her mother left her, and a hypnotic singing voice she inherited from her father.

A streetwise orphan, she is an expert at surviving in a dangerous city, where the rich have fled to the New Continent and the deadly daytime sun forces the middle class to live in sewer tunnels. Jax, along with the rest of the homeless, must be wary of rats—the furry ones underground that steal their food and invade their shelter and the human ones above ground that steal their children and threaten their lives.

When the tyrannical mayor, SYLVANIS A. CULPEPPER, kidnaps Jax’s brother it’s no coincidence. His son has died from multiple rat bites and he kidnaps all of the city’s children with a two-fold ulterior motive. One, to find his illegitimate offspring, and two, to garner a slave labor force to build his planned underground city using those he did not father.

Jax is surprised when Culpepper’s personal pilot, COLT CONRAD, a stranger from the New Continent, facilitates her escape from the mayor’s mansion after her first attempt to save Andy goes awry. Romantic emotions interfere with her determination to rescue her brother and though she knows who Colt is, she doesn’t know they are both descendants of the founders of an environmental militant group called the ECOS, who battled Culpepper two generations earlier, and lost their lives to the unscrupulous tyrant.

Jax accidentally discovers her singing has a hypnotic effect on the rats. Desperate to win Andy’s freedom, she disguises herself as a world-renowned exterminator with the help of a rag-tag band of friends. ASTORIA CRUZ, a teen nightwalker. RAFE JOHNSTON, the leader of a street gang. And a genius boy nicknamed CHIENSTEIN, who designs tools from scavenged machine parts Jax picks at abandoned mansions and industrial sites. Colt introduces her as THE VIPER and she barters with Culpepper. If she rids Metro city of the rats that killed his child she will receive enough gold to pay passage for her brother, her friends and herself to the New Continent.

In a life-threatening ruse Jax uses her mesmerizing song to lure the city’s rats to their death in the toxic river. But when the corrupt mayor reneges on the agreement, Jax and her friends ultimately outwit and out battle the greedy autocrat. Culpepper and his Megamark Guards kill Rafe as he protects Astoria, his unrequited love. In Jax’s grief over his death a new relationship blossoms with Colt, one that changes her life forever. Though the price paid for her brother’s freedom is extreme, Jax saves not only her brother, but all of Metro City’s children from life in a dying city.

As Jax and Colt bond, they discover the ECOS secrets for saving the planet and put their ancestors’ plan into action as they start a new life in Antarctica, the new sustainable continent. Culpepper starts a new life too, one he never envisioned for himself— stinking, dowsed in darkness and scratching through the alleys of Metro City for food— the life of a sewer rat!


"We are orphans. We use our brains and our bodies to survive. But the only things that thrive inMetro City are the rats, and not all of them are rodents."

                                                                                               Jax Stone

Chapter One

Whoever said the teen years were the best of a girl's life didn't come from Metro City. Hell, they can't imagine what it's like to be me, living in a sewer tunnel by day, and foraging the forest for food or scavenging through abandoned mansions at night. Anything I find that I can't use to survive this hellhole I trade for money.

And then, there's the Megamark Guards who patrol this dying city. I avoid them at all cost. One never knows when they'll turn on an innocent person. I've seen them beat up the homeless on a wager or for sheer entertainment. No, it's not an easy life.

We used to live in brick houses and modern apartments, but the sun's savage rays turned our lives upside down. It took a while to get used to sleeping in the day, but night, as dangerous as it is, is the only time we can venture to the surface to seek food or trade our services.

Between the vindictive Guards and the deadly daytime sun, I spend half my time surviving, and the other half planning how to. If this is the best part of my life, I might as well be dead. Only one thing keeps me alive . . .

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Author, Gayle C. Krause

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Friday, December 12, 2014

Pest Control

Environmental Satire / Thriller
Date Published: November 24, 2014

Joseph Vogorev hates spiders and loves money. As the president and CEO of chemical giant Pest No More, he develops a neurotoxin pesticide specially formulated to target only arachnid species. When outspoken environmentalist Gale Pacalis realizes the potential for planet-wide devastation, he wants more than anything to bring Vogorev down. With a host of quirky friends, he collects data to prove Arach-No-More’s lethality. Teenaged Amelia joins his group because she’s personally invested; her pink kneed tarantula, Pinky, died. It’s a race to save the world, but as Gale and his friends go head-to-head with Vogorev, the many obstacles they face makes it seem impossible to win. Mainly because Vogorev has unlimited money and a limited conscience.


Vogorev waved the aerosol can in the air. “The specialized and patented nozzle on this can disperses the contents at five hundred feet per second. Not exactly the speed of light, but still pretty damn quick.” He chuckled.

There was a strained silence and then a lone high-pitched voice called out, “Those are spiders up there!”

Gale looked up at a tank right above his head. The lady was right. The outline of spiders pressed against the plastic was unmistakable; all of those little legs writhing and clawing to get out. There had to be thousands of them in the tanks, throwing themselves against the side as if they were crazy. Before anyone else had the chance to react, a scraping sound echoed off the walls as the bottom of the containers slid open and hairy tarantulas rained down over the audience amid screams and shrieks. Gale stared at Vogorev and saw how he calmly depressed the spray nozzle for several seconds, then smiled and took a few steps backward.

The audience was frenzied, jumping up and down, brushing eight-legged bodies off their pin-striped suits and designer dresses. Gale shook a spider off his head and stepped over a couple of carcasses as the investors exchanged horrified glances with one another. They were trembling and shuddering and holding onto each other. The spiders, however, did nothing.

When Vogorev spoke, the people paid attention as if he was a messiah, “I told you to trust me. Look around. The spiders are all dead. They were dead long before they even hit the ground.”

Gale picked up a carcass at his feet. True to Vogorev’s word, the spider was dead. They were all dead. Thousands of tarantulas lay on the floor as if a mass arachnid suicide had just occurred.

About the Author

Sofia Diana Gabel started life in Sydney, Australia, but her family moved to the United States when she was very young. Home wasn’t settled for a long time and included living in Toronto, Canada; Henrietta and Buffalo, New York; Northridge, Southern California; a short stint back in Sydney, Australia; Reno, Nevada; Dallas, Texas; Daytona Beach, Florida, with an eventual semi-settled life in Ojai and Ventura, Southern California as a single parent to her three daughters.

Perhaps the unsettled partial nomadic lifestyle is the reason she loves to travel and is never fully satisfied with where she’s living. Moving around and travelling to different countries are adventures which serve as potential settings and plots for stories. A multi-genre fiction writer, with degrees in environmental science and archaeology, and coursework in creative writing and criminal justice, she enjoys being out in nature, keeping up on archaeological discoveries and learning about the law, criminal behavior and police procedures (all with, once again, potential for stories!)

When she's not glued to her desk writing or researching, she loves to spend time with her family and hairless Sphynx cats. Writing is a true passion, born from a love of the written word and how those words can transport the reader to different places or worlds and deliver them back to reality, safe and sound.

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Thursday, December 11, 2014

Waiting for Perfect

A Young Adult Contemporary novel by Kelli Kretzschmar. I read this straight through in one sitting as the emotions were riveting (well, as straight through as a mother of a nursing Toddler and always-jumping-Preschooler can). It is easy to see that the author took her Psychology degree seriously...almost all of the characters' emotions are so well fleshed out.

We get to know the characters...particularly Kendra and her two future potential love interests, cousins Sebastian and Nick Veneto. We see below the surface prettiness of largely affluent California living that nothing in Kendra's life is perfect (especially her relationship with her mother). Then the unspeakable happens...a betrayal as someone she thought was a good friend tries to sexually harm Kendra. Kendra finds herself trapped in a cycle of attempting to heal and facing further conflicts.

A tale of friendship and loyalty...choices, mistakes and consequences. Despite the tragic events depicted, there is so much hope and might even say that most of the teens grow to become young adults by the end of the book.

My rating: 4.5 out of 5 stars and I look forward to Book 2
Format: Paperback, Paperback,406 pages. Kindle edition.
Advice:  Most readers should leave extra reading time for processing emotions and reactions. Of course, there are some pages where those with past sexual trauma may experience triggers. It is obvious that the author tries to handle the depiction of sexual violence with care but proceed with caution.
Nice feature: A Spotify playlist at the end of the book. It includes a song from the Foo Fighters new "Sonic Highways" album. :-)

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Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Food and Me

-----This Poached Pear and Cranberry Cake looks incredible! I am intimidated by making this.
-----I want to make some beer bread. I don't have a recipe (or beer) yet.
-----White Chicken Chili is on my menu list for this month. #CansGetYouCooking
-----Just found out that Knorr has garlic and cilantro mini cubes. Keeping an eye out for those only because I am curious.They can be crumbled.

Friday, December 05, 2014

And then there are Purity Balls. There are several aspects to this that are a bit creepy.
The video below contains harsh words (warning).

Yes, this is a bit liberal...well, very liberal in places.

Monday, December 01, 2014

Carry Me Away by Robb Grindstaff
Desert Rice by Angela Scott
White Chalk by Pavarti K. Tyler

Literary Fiction Anthology
Date Published: October 25, 2014

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Available Directly as a $9.99 eBook — This special edition box set containing 3 separate literary gems is available as an eBook only, and it marks a tremendous collaboration between 3 critically-acclaimed and award-winning authors with Evolved Publishing.

Carry Me Away by Robb Grindstaff
Carrie Destin, a biracial military brat, learns the injuries she sustained in a car accident will prove fatal before she reaches adulthood. Facing an abbreviated life with a brash attitude and a biting, sometimes morbid sense of humor, Carrie races to experience life before it ends, but spirals out of control, leading to a physical and emotional collapse.

Desert Rice by Angela Scott
When Sam meets “Jesus”—who smells an awful lot like a horse—in the park, life takes a different turn. He saved her once, and may be willing to save Sam and her brother again, if only they admit what took place that fateful day in West Virginia. But Sam doesn’t remember, and Jacob isn’t talking.

White Chalk by Pavarti K. Tyler
When Troy Christiansen walks into Chelle’s life, she’s desperate to believe his arrival will be her salvation. So much so, she forgets to save herself. Follow Chelle’s twisted tale of modern adolescence, as she travels down the rabbit hole into a reality none of us wants to admit actually exists.


Pavarti K Tyler: Award-winning author of multi-cultural and transgressive literature, Pavarti K. Tyler can be found with Doc Martens strapped on over fishnets, but a girlish giggle as easily and likely as a throaty guffaw.

Angela Scott: Award Winning Young Adult Author signed with Evolved Publishing. Writes about zombies in the Wild West, and sometimes other stuff too. (Writing what the little voices tell her to).

Robb Grindstaff: Fiction writer and editor, author of the contemporary literary novels Hannah's Voice, Carry Me Away, and the short story trilogy, Sonoran Dreams.

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Saturday, November 29, 2014

Saturday 9 Meme
Paint It Black

1) This song was chosen because yesterday was Black Friday, the traditional day of sales. Have you begun your Christmas shopping?
Yes, we have all of our daughter's presents and have decided on things for the boys. Toddler daughter is getting a doll, a dollhouse and some candy/snacks. Preschooler has a mask and a Spiderman poster, a big box of his father's G.I. Joes and there will probably be a Batman Lego set. We have picked out something for College Son and I am hoping maybe some gift certificates, too.

2) Are there any Thanksgiving leftovers in your refrigerator right now?
No, we have not done our Thanksgiving celebrations yet. We are getting together with friends later today for a dinner...though it was moved from lunch...and now Husband is having trouble waking up...hmmm. When it fits into College Son's schedule, we are taking him out for Chicago-style pizza.

3) AAA says Thanksgiving is a big travel weekend. Did you venture far from home for your holiday dinner?
We had planned to travel for Thanksgiving but those plans fell through (seemed to be the theme this holiday).

4) Keith Richards likes France but, alas, the French authorities haven't always been fond of him and his criminal record. Have you ever been to France?
No. If I did go, I would love to roam the flea markets buying some books and an old fur coat (yes, I would wear it). I would also buy my daughter and myself bottles of Chanel and some rose-scented perfume in memory of Grandma and Great-Grandma.

5) Mick Jagger jokes that, to be polite to fellow hotel guests, he always finishes trashing his room by 10:00 PM. What kind of hotel/motel guest are you? Are you rockstar rambunctious, or are you quiet? Are you neat? Have you stolen any towels, bathrobes, etc.?
We are as quiet as people with playful children can be. We only take things that will be thrown out if we don't...I am excited when this includes cups for the trip or nice coffee.

6) Mick Jagger got his financial savvy as a student at the London School of Economics. Are you good with money?
I am very good at accounting. I get so upset when companies are deceptive (I seem to find the deceptive companies that mess up your credit).

7) In the early 1990s, a then little-known actress named Angelina Jolie appeared in a Rolling Stones video ("Anybody Seen My Baby?"). Name an Angelina Jolie movie.
Girl Interrupted....that's a very memorable one with some disturbing images.

8) In the early 1960s, the Stones nearly avoided tragedy when their tour bus skidded off a bridge. Tell us about a near miss you're thankful for.
Someone thought it would be funny to pull my feet from under me though I did not know how to swim, motorcycle accident, a barely missed motorcycle incident that resulted in the death of a loved one, bridge skidding, domestic violences, something close to heatstroke, toxic shock syndrome,held up at gunpoint, wrongly diagnosed with lupus anticoagulant (that was more of a horrid scare versus near miss), house fire where we used to live that totally decimated our living quarters and we likely would not have survived if still living there.

9) In 1966, when this week's song was popular, CBS telecast How the Grinch Stole Christmas for the first time. What's your favorite Dr. Seuss story?
"Mr Brown Can Moo! Can You?" is my favorite.
I am very fond of the Lorax and it was the first movie Preschooler saw in a theater.
I often sing "You're a green one, Mr. Grinch."

Friday, November 28, 2014

As the driven snow.

I am continuing my long read of a short book "Purity is Possible:How to Live Free of the Fantasy Trap" by Helene Thorne. It seems like purity is such a simple cut and dried subject but it is not.  The author shows great sensitivity and bravery in pointing out an often underestimated or overlooked problem that taints the minds and hearts of so many women.

I appreciated the talk about what a real beautiful life looks like (vs. how media like Cosmo portrays it). I have a friend who wants to jumpstart a long fantasized, dreamed of and longed for life...and has recently moved into a relationship that is far from any of what they wanted....and it seems that one wrong choice is going to stick with them and result in a pretty unhappy marriage. Another friend might as well be married to their fantasies and the sex toys, erotica books, etc. bought to feel adequate. I have no idea how to help either friend other than to pray and to model the way one should act when it comes to relationships/purity/sexuality. I am not judging either friend....just pretty bummed out about the situations, feel they could be doing so much more if only they could see the right timing and worried that we will lose at least one of these friendships.
(Henceforth, they will be known as Stubborn Boy and Plastic Girl here on my blog....and hopefully they earn new pseudonyms. Looking back on my writing, I see that Plastic Girl is a very bold allusion to some of my friend's addictions....but I am sticking with it because someone needs to discuss things such as this boldly.)
---I am starting a regular feature here on this blog called "Being the Woman that Cosmo Wants Me to Be?" To make it easy on myself, I will discuss anything that is brought up in Cosmo's Facebook posts.

Fantasy vs. reality....otherwise known as policing your thoughts. It is amazing how deep this facet of maintaining purity can extend. Honestly, I think most of us engage in some form of escapism when our minds wander but, as the book points out, it is not always about someone else. Visualizing your partner as someone other than who they are, often based on some stereotype, does one's real life no good.
---Frankness: The book did not mention this but I think this also extends to how one thinks about past relationships that did not end badly. Widows/widowers who have remarried would find their current relationships and feeling about their spouse better if certain memories and "what ifs" were avoided.

Thorne truthfully points out that our hearts are idol factories. It is a constant battle not to put some longed for experience or way of life in a wrong place in our hearts. There are those who long to be in a relationship when single-ness at this point in time might be just the right thing for them. There are missteps because people want to either experience sexual relations or have their sexual relationship be some other way. And then there is a myriad of things that people do to keep from being hurt again. We all need to honestly figure out any feelings like this that our threatening to take over our lives and figure out the right things to do for the situation.
---The book did not go as much into what action plans should be implemented as I wish it had been able to. These are the kind of problems that take a lot of self-work and resolve. Mayhaps these issues should make some private New Year's Resolution lists. (Chapter 7, "Purity" is a good start....telling what "clothes" to take off and put on.)

So, that Beautiful Life mentioned at the beginning is one of liberty, intimacy and feeling God's love at all points of the journey.

I received this book via Cross-Focused Reviews and The Good Book Company. :-)
My copy will be donated to "Project Barbara's Rainbow" and gifted to whomever finds it at AudioFeed Music Festival (July 2015).

Friday, November 21, 2014

-----It definitely won't be in time for Thanksgiving but I do want to try Florida cranberries (roselles). I must make a plan for getting some.
-----I wonder if our city would allow us to have a few goats. Milk, weed control and new pets would be excellent. I must look into if there is a way.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Lou Ferrigno interview

-----Officer Ferrigno. Would you recognize him? In my mind, I have started calling Mr. Ferrigno "The Incredible Cop." :-)

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